BECAUSE IT WAS NEVER EXPECTED

 When you are unable to associate any logical reason to your woes in marriage, you end up with no other choice, but that of blaming dark magic and witchcraft. Gorgeous,  charming and sexy Rachel was a brimful of pure natural beauty.

She had men crawling all over her as if she were some kind of milky way that houses the very earth we live on.  After a quadrillion abortion procedures, she eventually had to scrap her womb out of her body.  Now, she was facing the consequences of her choices and actions made in her youth. She had earned for herself all kinds of names: barren land, arid desert, just to name a few. For so long she had been blaming dark magic and witchcraft for her deficiency of the well- known sweet honey of matriage. But it seems she has a solution...

    Rachel's perfect master plan was set to motion. Over the next couple of months, she was going to pretend to be pregnant as she hunts for a baby to steal. Yeah, STEAL. She had put to halt all forms of intercourse with her hubby in hopes of fulling the soon -to- be- best deception in history.

     With a clever, yet lame excuse by all standards she convinces her husband to allow her to go to her hometown to give birth. In strictest secrecy with her accomplice, she held in her hands her longed for bundle of joy, a caramel skinned hefty baby boy. It seemed as though the gods weren't on her side, that same month her husband died.

     The mother of the stolen baby boy was a petty trader who had to travel far and wide in order to market her goods. Her work, one day, brought her into Rachel's house. Upon, seeing the little one year old boy, Martin, playing with his tiny motorcycle, she was certain that that baby was hers. Blood, they say, is thicker than water. She did not react in anyway that would have drawn suspicion or attention.

     Later that day, she reported to the police that she had found her missing baby in a rich woman's mansion. Rachael was arrested.
After thorough investigation,  it was realised that Martin was indeed the Trader's baby. This was further confirmed by Rachel's apologetic confession, but confession alone was not going to erase her jail term.

Let's make our youth fruitful instead of fruitless by making the right choices.
Still smiling in the dreamworld...

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TOP FIVE TIPS TO STAY FASHIONABLE ON A BUDGET

Louis vuitton  handbags, rolex watch, topshop high waisted shorts , A- line skirts, levi jeans, denim jackets... cropped tops, we want them all. As fashionistas, we can spend our last bucks on really cool outfits and shoes, then drive around with our check engine lights on.

 For years, I have been thinking of ways of getting all of my fashion obsssessions met without robbing a bank or emptying my bank account.  Pointer alert, I would never rob I bank. So finally, I have come up with a kick- ass strategy that I am sharing with you today.

Build a budget

The basic rule that comes to mind is never to allow your expenditure exceed your income.  Second rule is to make sure you've cleared all loans and debts you might have incurred. Third, make a budget form, fill it each month and stick to it, more especially  the section for clothing and accessories.

Have a shopping list

Don't be an impulse buyer. Make a list what you need to buy and add the time and date you have to go for the shopping. Did I mention the fact that you have to stick to this list? Don't be in a rush to get this shopping list done, look through magazines,  go online, literally brainstorm about it passionately.

Save

Save as least as much you spend on clothes per month. There is always this security that comes with having little money stashed away somewhere. I've heard of the shopping savings account and I think it is totally cool. Also by saving you are powered to make bigger purchases in the future.

Have a style

Yves Saint Laurent once said that fashion fade, style is eternal.  And I couldn't agree more.  The first step to finding your style is identifying what you love when it comes to dressing.  Some of us are instantly drawn to the bold colours, some of us just love all things sports and some of us are conservative.  If you have a personal style, you would not be crazily dancing to the tune of  every trend that pops up. You become your own trendsetter. Importantly,  know your body shape and buy clothes that flutter it.

Know where to shop

Vital info alert! There are always shops that sell your much- loved designer clothes for less.  There are also boutiques that you could bargain to have a cloth half the price on the price tag. I have to stress on this point,  keep your receipts as this would help you in making your budget and actually guide you as to where to shop.

In a way,  we can have it all. It might not be as easy as pie but with commitment we can have it all.

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MATURITY: THE GIFT OF GROWTH

                     I have heard of some very young people being described as wiser and older than their age and their sense of maturity being highly praised. I have come to realise that maturity has nothing to do with age. It is a choice, a decision you make and a result of an effort to acquire it. Indeed, maturity is a gift and in order to get hold of it, you must first remove that invisible haze that clouds your perception.  What then really is maturity anyway?

Maturity is understanding the lyrics of life’s song.

It is entering a phase where you:
- are comfortable in your own skin, accept and love yourself.
- don't need validation from people to feel happy; for happiness is letting go of what you think life is suppose to look like and celebrating it for all that it is
- understand the reasons behind the actions and reactions of people, thus being able to shrewdly judge characters.
- become emotionally intelligent
- have a clear purpose and direction in life
- realise that there is more to life than just gaining and start to appreciate the act of giving.

- know which aspects of your life to keep private and those to be made public
- have control over your mind and your thoughts. Remember;  man is but a product of his thoughts.
- are not judgemental
- are independent yet acknowledge the fact that you need support from others

- are able to speak,  act and react with dignity while considering the feelings of others
- are able to look beyond the flaws and imperfections of others and forgive wholeheartedly.
  Desmond Tutu wisely said that our maturity will be judged by how well we are able to agree to disagree and yet continue to love one another, to care for one another and to seek the greater good of the other.
Let's live with love and compassion for one another.

What is your definition of maturity?

PINNED MATURITY DEFINITION

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Love always,  Liz.

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THE LARGEST UNTAPPED RESERVOIR

     The mind- blowing story of the daughter of a rejected maid servant turned first female president gave me hope.The rather sad yet captivating story of a young single mother who peddles on the streets to take care of her little ones taught me resilience. The distressing story of a fragile, broken yet strong forty- something- year- old woman who peels cassava, earning a paltry sum of fifty pessawas per day, in order to look after her family taught me the salient value of persistence. For the later, her greatest regret was her inability to put all of her children into the tertiary institutions. You see, when a woman succeeds, her family succeeds, when her family succeeds then, the society and the nation as a whole succeeds. The success of women has a rippling effect! I have thus come to the striking epiphany that there is a lot that we got to do in the field of female empowerment. 

     This whole talk about female empowerment is definitely not a quest for superiority.
It's rather one that seeks to steer attention towards the need for women's employment, health and education. Nevertheless, it's also about gender equality. Indeed, women are the largest untapped reservoir of talent, unmeasurable potential and  power. It is accordingly  imperative that we cultivate in to our young girls the belief that they can be what and whoever they want to be and that their contribution is pivotal for the society.

13 LIFE- CHANGING MAKE- UP TIPS FROM THE PRO

Make- up, they say, is a woman's weapon. If it is combined confidence and a smile, then that would surely be lethal.

I had the privilege of being given the secrets to applying make- up from an expert. Here are some tips:

1.Apply a slight amount of milk of magnesium on your face before using your foundation. It has been proven to help smoothen the face.

2.The most essential make- up item is your foundation. So buy the best.

3.Use your mascara on both the top and bottom eyelashes. For the top one, curl the lashes upwards and do the opposite for the bottom one.

4.Always do your make- up in light. You might be surprise as to how you look when you step out if you do your make- up in the dark.

5.Buy make- up products that compliment your skin tone.

6.Cover up bags under eyes by applying concealer only to the shadow of the bags.

7.Put on foundation only after doing your eye make up

8.Use clean make up brushes. Wash your brushes at least once a week.

9.Your concealer is your corrector, especially if you make a mistake while doing the eyebrow arch. 

10.When applying make- up, you must know that your best tools  are your fingers.

11.To make your lipstick matte, use loose powder and a tissue

12.To make your eyelashes grow and look great, before your go to bed, put castor oil or Vaseline on them

13.Spray sparingly hairspray over your make- up to seal it.

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LIFE IS NOT PERFECT YET…

I don’t know of someone in this world who has always been a 100% happy

I don’t know of someone in this world who has never been hurt, angry or sad

I don’t know of someone in this world who has who has never been betrayed, broken hearted or rejected

That does not exist

Life is not perfect yet it is its imperfections which make it perfect

Sometimes we hurt ourselves

Sometimes others hurt us

Sometimes we make mistakes and regret later

If you’re living a breezy perfectly flawless life then maybe you

are not being true to yourself

You can’t please everyone all the time

A thousand times, people are going to hurt you

A thousand times, you are going to hurt others

The funny thing about life is that we are the only ones who remember our mistakes

We are the only ones who remember how people hurt us

If you are going to let your life be ruled by negative emotions, then you are not seeing the big picture

This world is full of people who never achieve anything because of their emotions

But seriously, emotions were never meant to be bad

Once in a while, just let yourself be hurled up by your emotions

But never ever let it last for too long

You are the only one who gets hurt

Leave everything behind you- all the mistakes and insecurities and start to live life each day with a jolly disposition.

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CELEBRATING A LEGEND: KWAME NKRUMAH

            

Every Septemper 18 is observed as a public holiday to mark the birthday of  Ghana's first president, The Right Honourable Kwame Nkrumah. Born on 18th September, 1909 in a small town called Nkroful in Ghana, the then Gold Coast, this gifted man proved that indeed we can use our voice to change the world.
With bravery he led Ghana to independence and has truly left footprints in the sands of time.
He believed so much in Africa’s potential. It is no suprise that he was one of the founding members of the organization of Africa Unity.

MOTHER- IN- LAW PHENOMENON

Not another round

It has become a custom to call one’s mother whenever the cry of a new born is heard. The sudden shock of being a newbie mother cannot be handled alone. It was in this light that the Oforis decided to call on board the ever able, ever young, ever super energetic Mama Sabina, Mrs. Ofori’s mum.
Yes, she did her job meticulously. In fact, her work exceeded expectations, but it crossed the invisible line. Hmmm…

Mama Sabina became a dictator and tyrant. Consequently, her daughter and her husband found the simply mundane task of going to their own home an ordeal like passing through the fires of hell. I exaggerate to make a point!

Putting ice cubes on your burnt fingers always feels so relieving, it ameliorates the pain. The relief that the Oforis had when Mama Sabina went beyond the veil can be compared  to having ice cubes on one’s burnt fingers. Lol, exaggerating to make a point.

Perhaps the last and final decision the Oforis had to make was that concerning where they would have to bury dear Mother- in- law. Burying her in Israel where they lived as foreigners was going to be just a cool $500 while burying her in their home country was going to be $5000. Mr. Ofori was the one releasing the funds, hence, he had the onus of making the final choice. Everyone thought that he was going to go in for the $500 bill but he didn’t. That was shocking! The big question was ‘’why?’’

To this he said, ‘’you see, Israel has a history of someone rising from the death in three days. Hmmm… it could be possible that my in- law could resurrect. I just don’t want there to be any loop hole. There shall be no other round of torture.’’

Don’t laugh alone, share the joy!
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