Friday, 26 December 2014

LIVING THE DREAM LIFE


Living the dream life is about living the life that you desire, the life you are proud of, the life that's right for you. It is personal and you would have to define what entails a dream life for you. As young adults we must define our dream life and earnestly work hard towards it.
 Here are some tips to spur you on to living that life:



Strive to be independent
You must be able to stand alone, think and act for yourself. Living in the shadows of your friends or parents might not get you far in life. In making a career choice, do something that you are passionate about.

Take the necessary risks
Do the things you love in fear of the unknown that might happen. Just don’t save your money, make smart investments. If you do this, then you would never live your life thinking about what could have
happened if you had taken those risks.

Be in right relationships
If your partner is not helping you to bring out the star in you, kindly do not waste your time wallowing in pain. Cut him or her out of your life. Having a broken heart is part of life, do not waste all your time crying over that. Most importantly, cut off unhealthy friendships. If you and your friend party all night and day, without achieving anything substantial in your life, then you have to start taking the bold step. You see, birds of a feather flock together. More often than not, when you are stagnant in one point in your life, look at the people around you and you see the same things happening in their life. Thus, make friends with goal-oriented, success-driven individuals ready to make a difference in this world.


Keep track of your goals.
Do not let laziness manage your life. Lying in your couch or bed and watching the TV or films, would cause you to be stagnant in life. Constantly keep your goals in mind, work towards them while sacrificing some of the pleasures of life.

Stay healthy
You are the best shape of your life in your youth. Your body is fully develop and you can wear all those clothes, eat all the junk foods and fail to exercise, yet still be healthy. You would never know the harm that is causing you till you enter your forties. Truthfully,  health is prevention, not cure.



Die with memories but never your dreams. All the best in this journey  of life.


                        Still smiling in the dream world...



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Wednesday, 24 December 2014

MAGNETISING LOVE AND RESPECT

Everyone is generally concerned about their relationships. We all do have one of those days that we feel like we are not being respected enough. Some people just have this weird thing that they do not deserve to have friends, perhaps because some kind of experience they have been through. The truth of the matter is that everyone yearns for love and respect. But before you even start thinking of your relationship with others, you must assess your relationship with yourself.


 Here are some tips to magnetising love and respect:

    Never let someone’s dislike for you, ever make you feel that you do not deserve love and respect. Everyone has met those kind of people who just want you to feel bad and talk to you anyhow. One thing that I have realised is that those people are not worth it.
      Do not shove people off. So far as the person has taken the time off to notice you and approach you, then you have to be nice and friendly towards him or her. When you do the opposite more often than not you lose any iota of respect that that person had for you. It so refreshing when someone comes to you and goes like,’ I thought that you were so unfriendly but I realised that that is so not true.'
      One of the greatest ways to attract love and respect is give the right realistic complements. A complement can go a long way to brighten up someone’s day. However, one of the greatest ways to lose love and respect is to constantly criticise people. No one enjoys being critiqued. Sometimes, you just have to overlook certain things.
    Don’t gossip about the people. You can never gossip about someone without hurting yourself. Besides,  gossip destroys your reputation. 
    Practice the golden rule: Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. 
    Finally as I said earlier, be your own best friend. The most important relationship you would ever have in your life is the relationship with yourself.

Respect is what we owe; and love, is what we give. - Philips James Bailey.




           Still smiling in the dream world...

Wednesday, 10 September 2014

12 MUST KNOW FACTS ABOUT AN UNDISCOVERED ADDICTION

TELENOVELA CRAZE

Murder, injustice, romance, comedy, friendship, love and greed have been the themes of many TV series and films. From the two and half men to the big bang theory to how I met your mother, these series have proven to know exactly what the public crave for. There is a shocking yet somewhat expected upsurge in the airing of telenovelas. These television soap operas have gained a global appeal and have been able to amass an astonishingly large audience. Gone are the days when the watching of telenovelas was seen as a chore for the bored tired housewife. Now it is enjoyed by everyone; men, children, teens, the old and the young. People go to the ends of the world to watch all the episodes of their favourite telenovela. Some literally become restless when their desire to watch an episode is not fulfilled. They seem to be addicted to this without them having to appreciate the fact. This is what has been called the telenovela craze.


Statistically, one sure way of increasing the number of viewers to your TV channel is to start airing a telenovela. In 1961 and 1963, Albert Bandura conducted a number of experiments which was collectively named the Bobo doll experiment when he studied children’s behaviour after watching an adult model act aggressively towards a Bobo doll. This experiment served as an empirical demonstration of Bandura’s social learning theory, showing that people can learn from watching somebody being rewarded or punished. It is with bubbling enthusiasm that I analyse the bright and the dark sides of the telenovela craze on the society, following the path set by Albert Bandura.

THE BRIGHT SIDE
1.       Wives with husbands who are big fans of telenovelas, especially those aired in the evenings need not worry about their husbands coming home late. This definitely has to be added to the bucket list of “how to snare husbands in to coming home early”.
2.       Telenovelas offers us the opportunity of experiencing the beautiful lives of beautiful people from different beautiful countries. Those with culture infused into them offer you a travel experience at the tap of a button of a remote. No plane fares, no visa interviews, simply a magical experience.
3.       The watching of telenovelas is seen as a way to unwind after a stressful event, day or week. It actively engages one’s emotions with its top- notch suspense.
4.       It has also greatly influenced fashion trends. The hairstyles, clothing and accessories of the characters of the soap operas are rigorously copied by women and men alike in their bid to be insanely beautiful. Thus, increasing the clientele of many hairdressers and seamstresses.
5.       Telenovelas have significantly impacted on our views of tons of areas of life; politics, drug trafficking, relationships, etc. the discussion of the actions of the characters in the episodes run on some TV networks has enabled us to appreciate fully the lessons these soap operas seek to cement into our lives.
6.       The theme songs of most if not all telenovelas are so catchy. People memorised the words of the songs even though more often than not it is in a language they do not comprehend. Some used it to dance; salsa, azonto and the like. From the theme songs of Teresa, a shelter for love, Rebecca, woman of steel, crown of tears and what life took from me, we realised that the production team of these telenovelas, put lots of efforts into their work.

THE DARK SIDE
1.       It wastes time. Workers during working hours busily and nonchantly engage in the watching of telenovelas. Some are able to combine mutually the act of watching and working but that’s not the case for all. From keen observation, children and adults waste time gossiping about the actions of the characters instead of indulging in productive ventures. Students instead of learning stay glued to their seats in front of the television. This has worsen the already bad performance displayed by some students.
2.       In the long run, it leads to unrealistic expectations in life: love and relationship. Men are tempted to compare their wives and girlfriends to the protagonist and the other female characters. Thus, setting absurd standards as to how females should look. Females also wish that their husbands and boyfriends are super romantic as the telenovelas depict.
3.       This has encouraged sedentary lifestyle in our society. People sit in front of the TV watching and eating at the same time, contributing to the increase rate of obesity in the society. As they’re enjoying the adventures in these telenovelas, they become oblivious as to what is happening around them.
4.       Telenovelas have influenced the behaviour of many people in our society today. Many of whom are not able to perceive distinctly the difference between the fiction showed and the realities on the ground. Aggression, cheating in relationship are now viewed as normal by many and in reality, they have turned into the characters in these soaps in their daily living. It is quite worrying the way children are fast picking up these behaviours, and it seems parents cannot do anything about it.
5.       Can you imagine members of a congregation pleading for their pastors to quickly end a sermon so they can go to homes to watch the omnibus of the telenovelas showed during the week? But really, it does happen. It isn’t bizarre that people don’t participate in social interactions because of their insatiable desire to watch their deliciously backed episodes of telenovelas? Some people strategically include the watching of these telenovelas in to their daily schedule and become infuriated when that is not fulfilled.
6.       The long hours of watching these soap operas have adverse effects on the visual faculty. I have seen people with short-sightedness, who do not wear their glasses, yet stare closely 24/7 at their TV screens in the name of Telenovela. The rays emitted from the television are so powerful but this is not commonly realised.

Other addictions some people have: addiction to heavy metals, addiction to video games, and addiction to body modifications like piercing and tattoos, addiction to gambling, addiction to the internet, addiction to shopping and addiction to food.

You might have an addiction that you have not yet discovered. It could or could not be the telenovela craze. One thing is certain, if that ‘thing’ takes away so much of your time without producing results, then it has to be cut completely out of your life. Life is all about balance and addiction robs you of that balance and your potential joy in life. Ask yourself; “is this really worth it?” If yes, then good for you. If no, then start making drastic changes in your life. Make that decision now, make that smart choice today.

                       Still smiling in the dream world...

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Saturday, 6 September 2014

CRAZY TRAITS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN YOUR PARTNER BEFORE MARRIAGE



Marriage

Men and women alike build wonderful dreams of their future marriage in their minds. But the journey to the pixel perfect marriage start with finding the perfect partner. And speaking from an objective standpoint, that dream is hardly fulfilled. The quest to finding the perfect partner is an uphill task, an almost impossible one. To jump start your journey to finding Mr. Right or Mrs. Right, you first have to read this. 

TRAITS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN A WOMAN

1.       It is so refreshing to go out with an attractive woman, with all the curves, flawless skin, and a spotless face, who is ripped for marriage. However, if you go out on a date and she doesn’t allow you to drop her right in front of her house or apartment afterwards, then that is a red flag. Such women tend not to be truthful and might be hiding an important ‘something’ from you.
2.       If you are with her and her phone rings and she goes like ‘this guy, never mind he has nothing important to say’, then that’s another red flag. And if she takes her leave after that call or calls back that person immediately you step away or leave her alone, then that’s a vivid warning that she’s not being faithful.
3.       If she introduces you to her friends (both male and female) as just another friend and also introduces all her male friends to you as simply her friends, then that’s a red flag. She is probably in tons of relationships.

TRAITS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN A MAN

1.       A man who constantly looks at his face in a mirror while combing his hair tends to be self-centered. If you are in a relationship with such a man, he tends not to care so much about you.
2.       A man who constantly rubs it in your face that he is handsome, and goes like’ you see, all the women love my look, they all believe that I am so handsome’. Such men tend not to be very committed in relationships because he knows that once he quits from his current relationship, he will get another woman in no time.
3.       A man who is not able to introduce you as his girlfriend or fiance to his friends and/ or relatives, probably sees you as just a friend. Thus, do not get all your hopes up.

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Tuesday, 2 September 2014

20 SOMETHING RIDICULOUS YET LIFE CHANGING LESSONS FROM TEEN YEARS



I always had this weird dream of becoming a rich and famous teen celebrity. I did not become that but I did have my fair share of the celebrity lifestyle. Teen years for me, was a growing up process. After all, who wants to see a girl or boy in his or her twenties crying? I made a lots of mistakes but the most important thing at the end of the day is that I matured. I want to share with you some of the lessons I learnt during those years.
1.       Your parents are doing their best to raise you up. Never argue with them. Rather respect them and show gratitude for all that they do for you. Talk to them calmly whenever you need something from them.
2.       Trying to please people is so lame. If people can’t accept you for who you are and not help bring out the best in you, then you are better off being alone.
3.       Do not rush to date and experiment with sex. You would be curious to know about it but sometimes, ignorance about it pays off.
4.       You would never regret putting lots of effort in to your studies. The opposite is true if you do otherwise.
5.       Put lots of efforts into developing yourself. Learn how to carry yourself and above all identify and utilise your talents.
6.       Pay attention to your health and looks. Drink lots of water to make your skin look fresh always. Do exercise to keep in shape.
7.       Surround yourself with the right kind of people. Make friends with the right people who you share similar values with. It takes effort to maintain a friendship as you have to try hard to maintain communication, compromise and sacrifice for each other.
8.       Be confident in yourself and model who you envision yourself to be in the future in your daily life.
9.       Use the social media wisely. Be mindful of the things you post and the comment you make.
10.   Learn how to motivate yourself and stay positive always.
11.   Do not harbour anger, resentment or hate towards anyone. Take charge of your emotions. Do not let it control you.
12.   Never let the mistakes or insecurities of the past hold you down from being better.
13.   Love your siblings and spend more time with them even if they are annoying.
14.   Words are powerful, so think before you speak.
15.   Never let criticism bring you down. Rather be the best person that you could ever be with the resources that you have despite what they say.
16.   You are never too young to save or invest
17.   Some people are going to pretend to like you when in fact they do not. Some would also genuinely like you.
18.   You are going to notice a lot of changes in your body, your opinions about life and even in the people around you.
19.   Don’t compare yourself with others. Make goals and set standards for success for yourself.
20.   You got learn how to speak up for yourself. And be the best that you can ever be in any situation.
21.   You can’t change everything; such as someone’s attitude or personal preference. Thus, you would have to adjust to those things a couple of times in life.

You see, life is too short so savour every moment both the good and the bad. I may not know what awaits me in my twenties but with optimism I’m facing those years. Definitely, I’m going to make a difference in this world and above all, achieve all my goals.
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